This was my first Thanksgiving as a single woman; what a year it has been. Realizing all I had done to keep my marriage going till the end made me take a step back and analyze other relationships in my life. It was sort of a bittersweet awakening, but as I am going through this healing process, it couldn’t come at a better time. It’s sometimes hard for me to accept that not everyone I meet will have the same values, morals, and be as consistent as I am in a relationship. I guess this is part of giving your heart to those you love without even thinking about it twice. Some people will be around when they have no one, while others are there for you no matter what. You can let people into your personal life, show then what real family love is and it’s up to them to accept it or not.
Any relationship takes trust, honesty, consistency, respect, and realness for it to work; that goes for friends and family members. You can’t be the only one bringing these qualities to the table either; it has to be mutually done. If it isn’t, you’ll just be taken for granted and end up hurt. In these last few months my close circle has shrunk, family members have made their exits, and relationships that I thought were on the same page are not. I am learning to let go of what brings me sadness, stress, and negativity; sometimes people bring those things to your life and as much as you love them, for your sanity, you need to let them go. I am a firm believer in whoever is meant to be in your life will be, no matter the time, distance, or circumstance.
So this Thanksgiving I am thankful for those that have been by my side through this rough year. Those that have brought nothing but joy, support, love, consistency, and kindness to my life and can take my advice and opinions just as I take in theirs. Those that communicate with an open mind, open heart, calmness, and want to grow to be better individuals just as I do. I am grateful to my close friends that understand the concept of real family love and are there for me no matter what time of day or what is going on in their lives. And lastly, I am especially grateful for my family; it is through our obstacles that I have learned compassion, communication, and to always make time for your loved ones. Happy Thanksgiving, shine beautifully always…and I hope you let go of bad relationships and make room for more good ones.
Thursday Thoughts is a weekly series to share my random and personal thoughts with my readers so that they will get to know me a bit more; the series is just for fun, sharing, is therapeutic for me, and to make you think of situations yourself.