I was in the dating scene a long time so I picked up a few tricks of my own and this was one of them…the holiday hookup. Now that the holidays are over, I’m hearing about lots of breakouts from friends that are in the dating scene and it reminded me of a guy I dated once. If you were dating someone exclusively and now that the holidays are over and so are they, it may be because they simply don’t want to be committed. Been there, done that. You’re dating someone before the holidays and it’s going ok, not like you want, there are still signs that who you’re dating is not as committed as you are…but you hang in there because you’re really into the person you’re seeing, maybe you’re even in love with them. Besides, who wants to go through a breakup during the holidays anyway, right?
The holidays are here.. everyone is joyous, merry, and you’re relationship has taken a higher level. You and your sweetheart have grown closer to each other, are spending more time together, and you’re now gonna meet the family. All the signs they showed you of not being committed 100% to the relationship prior to the holiday season has now just been deleted off your mind. You’re head over heels, this it is, he’s finally coming around, things are perfect…everything between the two of you were complete bliss from Thanksgiving to New year’s day.
We are now two weeks into the new year and your sweetie one day just doesn’t call…No text messages…and does not even reply to yours. The wheels in your mind started turning and turning…they’re at turbo speed bringing back all the doubts and memories of how unstable things were before the holidays. Finally, your long lost love decides to contact you, now you could either be mad at them for blowing you off or sad because you’re hurt…or both…depends on your personality and how you handle things. Either way, I guarantee, the reason for their disappearance is gonna be the same.
“I think we need time apart”, “it’s not you, it’s me”, “I need space”, “I don’t know what I want” are probably the most used phrases holiday hookups use to get out of being in the relationship. People change during the holiday season, some want to take someone to their family’s house or just not be alone. There are even those that are lame and just wanna receive Christmas gifts! Either way it’s unfair to you if you’re giving your all to make this work. When the holidays are over and they really don’t wanna be in a relationship, out comes the bullshit.
These are signs and red flags of someone that wants you and the loving relationship, but still be able to keep their options open like a single person. If you’re dating someone, make sure they’re consistent, make sure they are the holiday honey year round. After all you deserve someone that puts in everything you do to make a relationship work. And no one wants a ho ho ho! 🙂